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How To Start A Conversation With A Girl

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Once you approached a girl you like one of the toughest steps is take, but you are bound to face the second tough one – how to start a conversation with a girl.

Yet, you shouldn’t be afraid. It is not as complicated and challenging as you might think.

First of all, remember a rule. Act quickly. You like a girl, go and start talking to her. Don’t let any doubts and excuses crawl into your mind.

But here it is important to remember the second rule. Don’t come unprepared. You might approach her but it won’t be worth all the trouble if you have no idea what to say.

So you will need courage, confidence and a little bit of understanding how a girl’s mind works.

First impression matters

Make sure you look good. Maybe it sounds clichéd but you won’t have a second chance to make the first impression. When you approach the girl, introduce yourself. Smile. Be confident. Be polite. Maintain eye contact.

Keep it simple

Don’t over-think and over-do. Keep the conversation simple. First, be ready with some openers. It might be something in your pocket, or something situational. Just make sure it is appropriate to the situation. And be creative and original.

Body language

You might not believe but the use of body language can contribute a lot to knowing how to flirt . Even if you are not as confident as you want to be, using some tricks can help you to feel confident, and most importantly, make her realize how confident you actually are. This will work for you.

The most important thing in a conversation when you approach the girl for the first time is how you start this conversation. Below you will find a few recommendations on how to start a conversation with a girl.

  • You can keep it simple as mentioned above. Approach her, say ‘hi’ and introduce yourself. Take it from there. Often it works just fine. Especially when you both are stuck somewhere and have some time.
  • Observe and use the situation to your benefit. She reads a book; ask her how the book is. You see something funny around, draw her attention to that. To use this option you need to have some quick thinking and reaction.
  • Jump into a topic right away. You have a topic, start with it. If she is interested, she will respond adequately, and here you are, having a thoughtful conversation.
  • Start with a compliment. While it might be cheesy, but then it still works really good. Just make it sincere. Girls understand very well when compliments are made just for the sake of making a comment. Not everyone will like it.

In any cases you should try to be original, sincere and fun. This first phrase is the key to the conversation. You have to awake her curiosity in order to process to the next stage.

What you should remember is that you should not appear arrogant and rude because then it won’t work out and the girl will run away right after you introduce yourself. Besides you should be able to understand when the girl is not interested to talk to you. If there are signs, the best you can do is to say “It was really nice talking to you” and move on.

All in all, one does not need to have some extra qualities to be able to start a conversation with a girl. Just pay attention to above mentioned advice and give it a try.

Written by Bill Prestion

January 14th, 2011 at 9:04 pm